the third sex

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I get emails from time to time asking how to meet young ladyboys who are college or university students, rather than the professionals who work in the bars. Are there pubs and clubs where they congregate, people ask me.

Many years ago, before I really became involved with the ladyboy scene away from the bars, I used to think the same thing. That there must be places near to the universities where ladyboys gather, and consequently if I was to hang around there myself, I would find some sweet company.

But, as I was to discover, this is not the case. Our thoughts are coloured by our own experiences. Although students in Thailand are like any others, gathering in like-minded groups, there is not really the kind of pub and bar scene that we are used to in the West.

In fact, as many of the Thai students are from genuinely poor backgrounds, they eke out what money they do have on food on rent, rather than spend it on booze. And, generally speaking, ladyboys do not drink - not the young ones, anyway. They are far too concerned about their appearance. Rather than getting plastered, they will spend what spare money they do have on makeup and clothes.

Of course they enjoy music and dancing, but if they do go out it will be to a place unknown to any Western traveller, where English is not spoken, and where any Caucasian would be a distinct and conspicuous oddity. Even in RCA, the avenue of entertainment places in Bangkok where young Thais tend to congregate, a foreign visitor will feel uncomfortably prominent.

Student ladyboys tend to congregate on campus, where because there are so many of them they often have their own bathroom facilities, or they get together in their own rooms. As they tend to stay together in groups, you will often find a large number of ladyboys rooming in the same apartment building. Find one of those, which will usually have its own coffee shop, and you can meet students.

But really, the best way is to hook up with a young ladyboy from one of the bars. Often you will find she really is a student trying to make some money. These girls are not necessarily hardened hookers. And if she herself is not a student, then she will probably have friends who are. If you are spending any length of time in this country, and you really want to meet young and non-commercial ladyboys, this is the route to take.

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The other day I was taking a set of photographs of a girl. A genetic girl, that is, not a ladyboy girl. By the time I had taken some shots of her with her pants down, I was running out of ideas what to do with her. The funny thing is, that after photographing ladyboys, everything else is a bit tame.

Like most adolescents I had always lusted over the idea of photographing naked girls. Eventually, unlike most, I got around to doing it. But then along came ladyboys and I found them so utterly fascinating to photograph that girls have since taken second place.

Consider. You have someone who looks like an attractive girl but who proves to have a large penis. Get both those elements into one photograph and you have something that, although these days it is relatively commonplace, is still nonetheless shocking. A decade or so ago, before the advent of the internet, few people would have seen that kind of photograph.

The penis is a remarkably beautiful part of the body, but usually it is stuck on the end of a smelly, aggressive man. Put one onto an attractive girl, and you change the equation. You also tend to lose the idea that admiring an erect penis makes you gay. In my experience of ladyboy lovers, and believe me I have met or corresponded with a vast number over the years, most are heterosexuals with a strong libido. Their interest in sex takes them beyond the conventional, but not into the realms of being gay.

Penises come in many shapes and sizes. The best ones to photograph have a foreskin that rolls back to reveal a bright pink head - not always a common sight in this part of the world, and usually seen only on people with light coloured skin.

Then, consider photographs of your model jerking off and sending spurts of semen into the air (if you are lucky) or at least making a creamy, sticky mess on her tummy. That makes for really exciting pictures. Genetic girls can’t do that!

So, when I do take pictures of GGs, once the initial excitement is over, and the tease shots and the up-the-pussy shots and the bottom shots are done, I’m fiddling around wondering what to do next. Yes, there is plenty that can be done, I know, but I’m so geared up to the final climatic wanking sequence that I feel a bit lost.

A funny old life, sometimes, eh?

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I’m still in cold, windy London right now, missing ladyboys rather badly because there are not many here and those that there are you have to really go searching for. Unlike Thailand, where they tend to come looking for you.

The fame of Thai ladyboys has however spread to the United Kingdom, partly through sites such as this and partly because of a number of ladyboy shows that have been staged throughout the country on a number of occasions over the past couple of years.

A friend, who knew nothing of my preference, was sounding me out in my local pub the other evening.

“These ladyboys,” he said. “What do you make of them, then?” What are they? Male or female?”

I replied that they are neither male nor female, but formed a sex of their own, the third sex.

“Blimey,” he said. “Sounds a bit dodgy. But they look like women. How do you tell the difference?”

The ladyboys are more beautiful, I replied.

He looked at me. “You ever…you know…been with one of them?”

Yes, a lot of them, I said.

He took a pull at his pint of bitter. “What is it like, then?”

Totally addictive, I replied. Then we got onto another subject.

The funny thing is, that a few years ago that conversation would probably have never taken place. My friend wouldn’t have known what a ladyboy was. Plus, I have to admit this, I would never even have hinted that I had anything to do with ladyboys.

When I first discovered ladyboys, back in the days of Singapore’s Bugis Street, I was unwise enough to mention my discovery in the local pub. The hostile reaction I received made me button my lip on the subject for the next 20 years. How times change…eventually.

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A ladyboy friend had turned up and was waiting for me at the reception area of the apartment. I went down to meet her. She was wearing a very cute short red dress, and with her long hair looked gorgeous. There were a couple of Thai maintenance workers sitting nearby, and they were eyeing her appreciatively. As I approached, I heard one of them say to her: “Doot sooay.”

The phrase means “beautiful bottom” and the worker was complimenting her. This reveals something of the Thai man’s attitude to the third sex. If a man finds a ladyboy attractive, he will probably have no qualms about saying so and, with a bit of luck, having sex with her. The fact that she is biologically male won’t put him off. He won’t feel any remorse or guilt afterwards, he won’t go into an “am I really gay?” agony of self questioning. He would have had an enjoyable experience, and been on to the next thing.

There is something essentially healthy in this approach, or at least I find it so. It also helps explain why young Issan farmboys are happy enough to work in the gay bars of Bangkok and Pattaya. Why do backbreaking work planting rice and mucking out the pigs when on a good night you can earn the equivalent of half a month’s wages by spending the night in a foreign tourist’s hotel room. Gayness doesn’t really come into it. Guilt certainly doesn’t. The need to earn money does. But essentially it is an openness of mind, and self analysis doesn’t really figure.

As I have mentioned here before, the polite Thai phrase for a ladyboy is “sauw prapet song”, which means “second type of woman.” That is how the Thais regard ladyboys. And as ladyboys are in general far more open to a sexual approach than a genetic girl, given that they still have the sex drive of a male, a Thai man will often turn to a ladyboy simply for enjoyment.

So the maintenance worker probably wasn’t gay. He was simply voicing an honest opinion. He thought the ladyboy had an attractive figure and a pert rear. In the elevator, I asked her if she received many compliments like that.

“Yes!” she said. “All the time! If a Thai man like me, he say so! No problem!”

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Seldom does the mainstream media carry any serious coverage of young transgendered people, but the following article written by Patricia Leigh Brown appeared in a recent edition of the New York Times. I’m reproducing it in full here. The article can be found here .

‘Until recently, many children who did not conform to gender norms in their clothing or behavior and identified intensely with the opposite sex were steered to psychoanalysis or behavior modification.

But as advocates gain ground for what they call gender-identity rights, evidenced most recently by New York City’s decision to let people alter the sex listed on their birth certificates, a major change is taking place among schools and families. Children as young as 5 who display predispositions to dress like the opposite sex are being supported by a growing number of young parents, educators and mental health professionals. (more…)

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